Positive TAlk

Believe in Yourself
You may have heard someone say, "stay positive", or "think positive" and it's such good advice! Your mind can play so many tricks on you to where you start believing all of these negative things that you may hear. You're not good enough or smart enough but those things are just mean and not true. Always believe in yourself because you ARE smart and ARE good enough. You will become something great, so believe in yourself. Your mind is powerful, so think positive! Be optimistic You are better than the... Read more...
Help Build Trust
Being trustworthy is a very important part of good character. Part of building trust is keeping your word as best as you can and having and showing integrity. We all fall short at times, especially when we make a promise to someone. Just know that there may be times we can't keep our word, but forgive yourself. Things are always changing and the best you can do is all you can do. :) Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kU-cjsrlG-o Show up for Others Help others feel confident that they can put... Read more...
Courteous
Have you ever heard of the term "Common Courtesy?" This is basically a show of politeness and kindness in a way that may not be expected. For example, allowing someone else to sit in your seat when there are not any other seats to be taken. Another example is helping someone carry a heavy item when they didn't ask for help, but you saw they may have needed it. What are some ways you can show common courtesy for others and/or the people in your life? click here for more:... Read more...
Don't Give Up
If you fall down you have two choices. You can either stay on the ground or get back up. So when you try and try and try and it doesn't seem as though you are getting anywhere, you still have two choices. You can either stop what you were trying to accomplish or keep moving in the direction of your dreams. Sometimes when we try to reach something we want, it's in a close distance but we still cannot grasp it. There aren't high chances of attaining all that we... Read more...
Self Love
Ever wonder what it means to have love for yourself? Not everyone has it, but you can. Having love for yourself means to respect yourself, to believe that oneself is enough, therefore not needing to be anyone else as well as showing yourself satisfaction about who you are, inside and out. Having envy in your heart prevents you from expressing acceptance for you and others. Love more and more and more and more. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cuSLsOpqmIA Love yourself. How can you show love for yourself? Treat yourself with... Read more...
Do the Best You Can :)
When you are dealing with toxic people, it's okay to have moments and days when you are struggling with being patient and positive! Don't beat yourself up if your negative emotions got the best of you. Forgive yourself and start again. Find positive ways to express frustration with negative people and come back to yourself with a positive. What are you grateful for? What do you love about yourself? What are you looking forward to? Ask yourself questions to put yourself back into that positive place.  Click here for more:... Read more...
Making Mistakes
The truth is... YOU ARE GOING TO MAKE MISTAKES! The other truth is that...it's ok, we all do. Whoever you may be, if you are a human, you will make little mistakes and maybe big ones, but don't worry at all. No human on this planet hasn't made some kind of mistake. Whether you've spilled milk, accidentally told something that was supposed to be a secret or did something you know you shouldn't have, we all have done all three at some point. Don't be too hard on yourself, besides,... Read more...
Hope
Some people may say that having hope is a waist of time, that it is useless, but that couldn't be more far from the truth! Even in the worst situations, having hope can uplift you as well as others. When you look at the negative and hold your focus there, you are limiting the potential positives from entering your mindset. Your mind is so powerful and having hope increases faith, self-esteem and your resilience. If you have ever felt hopeless, that was because you lacked at least a little hope,... Read more...
Expect a Great Journey
When you hope for something, you wish it were true, you want that something to be. The good news is that it can! Whatever your dreams, with a little effort and a little work, they will become your reality. Our daydreams can shape our future because what we think, we can become. If you see yourself as a teacher, then take those steps. If you see yourself helping children all over the world, follow what the next steps would be. When you hope for something, you wish it were true,... Read more...
People Who Judge
It is NEVER You! From someone who has experienced a lot of bullying in my life, I have a full understanding that it was NEVER me. When people judge others, it's because there is something about themselves that they don't like or a situation that is bothering them. They are in pain and feel the only way to express that frustration is to put it on others.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=yeI3P1PM5G0 When in the midst of bullying, it takes a lot of work to stay strong and fall into the... Read more...
The Importance of You
So, we all know everyone is here on Earth for a reason. Including you! Our purpose is to use what we have! What we have to contribute to this world may not be the same as someone else's and that is quite all right. But we all contribute in some way, and you are much needed my friend. Whether you are helping to volunteer somewhere, helping out at the hospital or just around to keep someone company, find what you have to offer and use it for good. You have... Read more...
Consideration
Being considerate of others isn't just being thoughtful, but it's also taking yourself out of the equation and taking in someone else's emotions and what they want instead of your own. If you ask someone what movie they would like to watch and they say "It doesn't matter, we can watch whatever you would like," then they are being considerate of you. They are taking their interests out of the equation and placing yours there instead.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=9tYLMwAHXsw Being considerate of others isn't just being thoughtful, but... Read more...
Empathy
What is empathy? Well it's basically putting yourself in someone's place so you can understand their emotion. Being kind and caring when someone isn't feeling a positive emotion and connecting with them. Allow others to be vulnerable with you and share their emotions. You can show them you are understanding of how they feel and are available to offer them your comfort.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8U4lKsg0dg8 Why empathy is important Empathy allows you to be less judgmental with others and more open minded.  When someone is processing their feelings,... Read more...
Letting Go of Toxic People
You want positive people around you. Keep those around you who are trustworthy, authentic and don't have a consistency of breaking trust, speaking negatively of others, gossiping and putting others down. Create an inner circle of true friendship who you can call on, rely on and know that they have your best interest at heart. If someone isn't adding anything positive to your life, it's up to you if you want to continue in a friendship with them or stay in communication with them. You have to think about how... Read more...
Self-Respect
Unfortunately, most people treat others how they see them treating themselves. For example, if you treat yourself with kindness, most people will treat you with kindness. If you treat yourself like you don't care about yourself, people will pick up on that and will more likely mistreat you. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Oen-jfJP4F4 Take Yourself Seriously Set some boundaries, set your standards, express self-care and protect your heart. Even if you don't feel the best about yourself, when you realized how magnificently special you are, you will want to take... Read more...
Self-Validation
You validate yourself, never needed from others. You accept yourself and your joy and happiness is in your own hands. So many times do people look to others to "make them feel" a certain way. We make ourselves feel they way we want. We have that power. People can contribute to your emotions but no one can "make you feel" any emotion without your permission. Don't look to others so that you can feel worthy and loved. You give that to yourself.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTSzHfqsUjQ You already know... Read more...
You are Not Alone... at All
Everyone feels negative emotions and goes through times where they may feel by themselves without anyone who understands their problem. With all of the people in the world, trust me you are not by yourself. Whatever you are going through, someone is going through the exact same thing! Feeling lonely, alone, sad, depressed, scared, worried, stressed, fear and every other negative emotion are feelings that are easy to overwhelm you and take over your mood. But you have the power to take control over your feelings and emotions. Do not... Read more...
Purpose
When you wake up everyday, how do you want to feel? This is a question that will help lead you to what you would like to do in your life and on your journey. Wake up with positive characteristics in your mind and the ones you would like to express each day. Think of the ones you would like to get better with and follow your heart that will lead you in the right direction. Every single one of us has a purpose.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VFS1asuOVGQ Always moving... Read more...
Forcing Relationships (Family, friends)
You CANNOT force relationships with ANYONE! Yes, we all want someone to like us and love us, but when someone has expressed that you aren't their cup of tea, don't be offended. It's okay when people don't like you. You aren't going to like everyone either. It has nothing to do with you. Everyone has their preferences of who they want around them for their own reasons, and so do you.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=u_z3q8wvTno Your focus is not for everyone to like you You continue to love and... Read more...
Where Jealousy Meets Forgiveness
Anyone who has dealt with jealous people, know that it's always about a lack of love for themselves. Happy people will be kind to other people and they realize their self-worth. Don't allow others to control how you are when they are just jealous. Let others work out what they need to work out with themselves because they don't love themselves. Forgive them for what they don't realize, which is that all they have to do is think positively about themselves. You have absolutely nothing to do with another person's... Read more...
Having Faith in Your Future
When you feel discouraged, low and haven't a clue of what you're doing, having faith is your armor. You belong, you are accepted and you will get to where you need to be. Everything works in your favor whether you see it or not, but trusting that you have a bright future is key. Ultimately in the end, believing and having faith will carry you to a meaningful destination. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=q0eDqSRoa-M Don't be hard on yourself. If you fall down you have two choices. You can either... Read more...
Picture Yourself Winning
If you don't already think positively of yourself, start now! Create the best perspective of yourself and envision you loved, accepted and well. Reel in all of the goodness that you deserve and realize that you are a positive character. It never matters the negative others see or view you as. They will always be wrong.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5tkJkDl2aL0 What you choose to believe, you will be If you think you are all of these wonderful things, then that is how you will go about your day. You... Read more...
Giving Grace
We have all been hurt by someone else, but the key is not to be spiteful and negative toward that person. If you want to embody having good character and grow into more positivity, give them grace. Forgive and don't hold that anger against them. It's okay to feel sad and low, but when you forgive, you automatically lift yourself up. Allow them to know your kindness, in hopes they will be more kind next time. Click here for more 1st vid: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TmSXTr8x3ww It's All About You! If people are... Read more...
Letting Go of Fear
We aren't going to be in control of everything. When you let go of trying to control it all, your energy will be more positive and you will feel more free and think of things that are actually meaningful.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ny1G1v80pg4 Positive Scenarios Just how you can imagine a negative scenario, you can also imagine a positive one. You DO have the power to take control of your mind and your thoughts. Those intrusive thoughts that don't belong on your positive journey. Kick out the negative thinking and... Read more...
Letting Go of Judgment
Thinking positively of others broadens our minds, our perspectives and gives others a chance. If we are always judging, we create a narrow mind and though process that isn't good for our health. It causes more tension in ourselves because judgment is not positive. Our opinions aren't always going to be right and it's okay if someone expresses something different. We always have the power to keep things positive with others as much as we can.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pdWPNb37qcM Better Perspectives of Others We all judge at some... Read more...
Accepting Yourself
Being yourself means setting yourself apart from others who pretend to be someone they aren't. Stand strong in knowing what you will and won't accept from yourself and others. Setting boundaries and staying true to who you are is one of the healthiest things you can do for yourself. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5LLgcGSqEog The Importance of Accepting Who You Are When you are your own person, you listen to your own values and beliefs and you don't allow others to persuade you in a negative light. Being yourself also... Read more...
On a Positive Note
You won't do things perfectly, you're only human! Now that we've gotten that out of the way, you can begin focusing on only doing your best because that is all you can do. Sometimes we feel low because we didn't do something the way we wanted or had imagined. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DLCU406EXms If you did something that wasn't quite how you wanted, it's quite alright. Just try again, you will find what you can do best and get even better at it. Simply Have Fun! You are uniquely... Read more...
Get Positive about Your Thoughts!
There's a saying that goes around, "stay positive," said by grandma's, mom's, dad's and just other people. You would think it's easy for them to say especially if they already have something going well for them in their lives. But the truth is... that it's true! Your mind can play so many tricks on you to where you start believing all of these negative things that you may hear. You're not good enough, you won't be anything in life, you're not smart and other mean things. The other truth is... Read more...
You Are Here for a Reason
If you have had any doubts of your importance, remember, those thoughts aren't serving you. Push them aside and just get rid of them. We all have to do the inner work to remind ourselves of the fact that we all have a purpose and none of us are mistakes. Replace the doubt in your mind with confidence because you are going to spread so much happiness to others in your life. People need you and your light but you have to be the one who believes it. It is... Read more...
Thinking for Yourself
There is power in thinking for yourself. For example, if there is something you are interested in such as becoming an astronaut, you would take the steps to do just that. If someone says something to you that is negative, and you start doubting yourself and what you can achieve, you may not, all because you didn't think for yourself. Don't believe the negativity others splurge at you. Self-doubt is one reason why some people don't go on to accomplish what they wanted in their lives. Doubting yourself because of... Read more...
Caring About the Opinions of Others
The negative will always be, so will the positive. So which one are you going to choose? Being negative and listening to it will NEVER fill you with joy and excitement, but positivity will. If you have been listening to someone else's negative opinion of you, and believing them, you can rewire your brain to think the truth, which is that you are important. You have the choice to make beautiful things in this world and increase your good energy.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gSSQzpk5RVY Your Opinion is the Important... Read more...
Non-Judgmental
We don't need to point out things that we don't like about others. We ourselves are not perfect, just like them. We all have different ways of expressing ourselves, different ideas, and different looks, but it's supposed to be that way. We aren't made to be EXACTLY the same. We are more alike than different but no one should be judged by their differences.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VUazaLLfFa8 Focus on You! Don't make time spending it on judging others. You can do so many positive things to do with... Read more...
Gratitude
Being thankful!!! Gratitude is one of the best ways to feeling great! When you are thankful and grateful for the things in your life and the people around you and most of all your life, you gain more inner peace and happiness inside. When you have goodness inside, it shows on the outside. Your mood, feelings, emotions and behavior are all affected when you show gratitude. Everyday you can either say what you are grateful for or write down what you are grateful for and everyday watch your mood change.... Read more...
Patience
Patience, patience, patience. When the environment around us is such fast pace these days, it's sometimes difficult to slow down and take a breath. We seem to have to catch up and stay up on the latest technology, latest trends and what everyone else in the world is doing, but we have to focus on what is most important. Our inner peace. If you are always in a hurry and in a rush, that only makes you more frustrated because you tend to want everything right now and exactly when... Read more...
Integrity
Integrity is simply doing what is right when no one else is around. When no one is looking you still continue to follow the rules. Integrity or "doing the right thing" is important because rules are important. Rules are set in place for a reason. For example, if someone says "don't eat any cake until later, and you eat it when that person leaves the room, you did not show integrity. If you didn't eat any cake when that person left the room, you are showing integrity and that you... Read more...
Love Anyway
When people are mean to you, the best thing you can do is to keep it kind. If you treat someone in an unkind way because they did that same thing to you, do you know what kind of world we would be living in? Everyone would be holding grudges, not forgiving others, being mean and not giving each other another chance. Think about ways you can continue to show love to someone who didn't show love to you. You carry a kind heart and you reveal that when you... Read more...
Being Organized
Maintaining neatness in your surrounding creates better mental health! Less clutter means a less boggled and frazzled mind. When you are organized, your skills of responsibility and being accountable for your things, as well as others. Establishing an individual behavior of leadership. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uD6Q1lF6jY4 Expression of Your Space! Create a space where you know where your belongings are and a pathway in your home or space where you can access what you need without frustration. An easy flow sets the tone for your environment.  Read more...
Selfless
Being selfless is all about making a sacrifice for another and putting aside your interests for theirs. It takes kindness and volunteering to allow yourself to include the comfort of others and create a positive atmosphere around you. It's okay to care more about the wants and needs of others before your own sometimes.  Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RsVrSheWPsQ Selfless Acts:  Listening to someone when they need someone to talk to Sharing Letting an elder go in front of you in line Giving up your seat for a woman who... Read more...
Positivity
Believing in yourself, feeling positive about you and the things that you want to accomplish. Knowing you can do these things. For example, you don't want to allow another persons negative opinions about you to change who you are, you already have it in yourself. That's where your self talk comes in. When people bombard you with all their negative talk about you, you remind yourself that you are wonderfully made and accepted. Show up for yourself. Click here for more: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vy5H8ktZ6b8 Self Confidence all the way Set yourself up... Read more...
Confidence
Confidence is not something that always comes easy, but the good thing about it is that we can control how we come across to others, even when we don't feel our best. From speaking in front of your class, to communicating with people u just met, or going to a family gathering when you may be on the more shy side. It's okay to not feel your best sometimes, but remember, you are so special and important. You are accepted and loved more than you could know. A confident you... Read more...
Authenticity
I know it's hard expressing yourself sometimes, especially when there are others who don't accept you for whatever reason. Maybe you aren't the best communicator, or maybe you just don't feel comfortable in certain places, around certain people or just having a bad day. Here's a tip... just be you! You won't always have the answer to everything, and you won't always know how to handle a certain situation but trying to be and act like something that you aren't is never the answer.  I know it's hard expressing yourself... Read more...
Good Communication
When you are communicating with someone, by text, letter, gesture or any other way, you are sending a message. When you send a message, by your way of choice, you want to make sure that the message is clear and understandable for the other person. Have you ever received a message from someone and you didn't understand what they were trying to tell you? Or have you ever spoken to someone and it seemed as though they weren't even listening? Good communication is allowing a message to be clear and... Read more...
Equality
Equality is basically treating everyone like a human being. No matter what someone looks like, believes in, dresses like, where they're from, we are all equal. We are all the same and should be treated like it. Everyone is important and everyone deserves the same amount of respect as the next person. Treating someone as equal is being fair to them. It's like playing a game. Each player has the same amount of rules to go by, and no one is excluded from playing by the rules. Another example is... Read more...
Responsibility
Let's talk about responsibility! :) Being responsible means to be accountable for yourself and your actions. We all have to make sure that we are doing what we need to, in order to be more helpful. Responsibility is an important characteristic because you are allowing others to be able to count on you. So, when your parents or guardians tell you to wash the dishes or clean your room, and you do, you are being responsible because you are taking care of something that needs your attention. Another key to... Read more...
Forgiveness
Forgiveness is a process of pardoning someone for something negative they have said or done to you and not holding it against them. Sometimes someone may say something rude to us and we get upset and hold negative feelings toward that person. Holding that negativity and tension isn't healthy, instead we can realize that nothing is personal. People are responsible for how they treat others and how they respond to others as well. Forgiving is continuing to treat someone with kindness even when they have been mean to us. Not... Read more...
Kindness
Kindness is so important for all of us. When you show care and concern for another, doing for another or putting someone else before yourself, these actions create a kindness ripple affect. Acting with kindness allows others to do the same and not only does it create more kindness in the world, but it also is a mood booster. Behaving in a positive manner especially to others makes you feel great! It makes you more confident just knowing you made someone's day or put a smile on someone's face. Even... Read more...
What it Means to Have Good Character
So, some of you may be wondering what good character is all about. Welp, let me explain. There is a difference in having character and having good character. Character is made up of your attitude, your behavior, your personality and your choices. Having good character is made of the same things but your attitude, behavior, personality and decision making are of quality. Good character means that we can be depended on, trusted and also set a good example for others. Now we don't always do the right things or make... Read more...